LEARNING

My birthday has just passed and I was pondering over my past years and thinking that wow!! I have accomplished so much in life in terms of learning. Met so many people, lived in different parts of the world, travelled and went through different life  experiences. When I was young , I never understood the meaning of " dhoop mein baal  safed karna" but now I got the true meaning of it. Kahte hain na, " zindangi sabak kab padhati hai, aur arth kab samjhati hai".  As life is progressing ,I am  getting the meaning of so many things. Is it because I have started knowing myself or getting the message right from the incident happening to me or around me?  Whatever it is, it compelled me to make a list of a few valuable lessons that I learned with the wish of learning many more in the coming years. It is not that I did not make mistakes, I did but then took a lesson from it and moved on. It enriched me as a person and helped me make better decisions. I loved this quote by William Jordan," Mistakes are the growing pains of wisdom," and it comes more from living than studying.  So here is the list.

1.Time may heal most wounds, but not all.
2. Love always but it is not always the answer
3. Life is beautiful .  It is up to us how we want to make it.

4. Forgive people

5. We are all connected

6. Biology doesn’t make a family.

7. I love this saying “This too shall pass”

8. Don't brag unless necessary. People are seeing what you are.

9. Respect is earned,  not commanded

10. Change is growth. We don't look at things the same way as we did 20 yrs ago.

11.Never do something for which you have to lie

12. Certain secrets of life goes with you in your grave

13. Always, always listen to your gut instinct.
14. Take responsibility for your action

15. It’s a good idea to take a deep breath before saying something you might regret
16. Some people come in to your life for a short time but you remember them forever.

17. Be generous

18. Learning is everywhere

19.  I have met some really cool people through the internet.

20. I will never be a follower.

21. My husband is my Guru. I am impressed by his managerial capacity , patience, wisdom ,     knowledge and accepting me the way I am.

22. Accept people the way they are..

23. Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission

24. Be humble

25 I feel at home in my library
26. Life is short – make the most of it

27. Being a woman is a big responsibility.   So act wisely.

28. Be ethical. It makes you feel good about yourself

29. Happiness is a state of mind. So cultivate it.

30. Be expressive. If you like someone or think good about them, then tell them. You never know if life will give you another chance or not.

31. Make people feel comfortable in your company.

32. Believe in goodness . It bounces back.

33. Do not help people unless asked. It sounds good when we read about helping others even without asking but in practical life it backfires.

34. Sometimes it happens that people will love you but you don't feel for them. Still try to respect their sentiment.  Don't brush them off.  It is always rewarding.

35. When something goes wrong, try to look inward. It is not necessary that you are always right.

36. Stop the blame game. It will take you nowhere .

37. Accept the consequences and move on.

38 You can't teach people. Life teaches them.

39. Try to talk to at least a few minutes with someone who can't be happy without you.

40. Try to add quality in people's lives.

41. If you cannot say good things to people, don't say bad. It hurts.

42. Let things go if you want to play long innings with people. Do not hold grudges.

43. Use your judgement to filter people, if they are too much of a trouble. But do not let your EGO affect your judgement.

44. Human relationships are complicated.

45. 'Communication is the key.' - sounds good, but not always the solution.

I haven't yet learned to manage my time well and that is the only regret that I have. I think I am taking my time for granted. I need to work on it in the coming years as Mitch Albom says in his book 'The Timekeeper', "You only have the time you are given, so don't spend time wishing you had more or less, spend your time using it."