PATRIOTISM - What it means to me

The Common Wealth Games have finished and so I let out a sigh of relief saying to myself, "all's well that ends well". I feel proud that India scored 2nd just after Australia as far as gold medals are concerned. India did well in spite of all the uproar and allegations of corruption. I feel proud as an Indian and happy for Canada as it secured its position by gaining 4th place.

Since then I have been questioning myself - why do I get so happy or sad when it comes to Indian victory or failure? I am a Canadian citizen, and yet my loyalty is more towards my country of birth than the country of my citizenship. My heart pains when media here talks badly about India. I become defensive and start behaving like a brand ambassador of India although I am not officially appointed. My heart rejoices when India is praised, or handles any crisis intelligently and practically. I feel proud when our cricket team does well or our girls become Miss Universe or Miss World. I feel happy when an Indian living outside gets a Nobel prize. It gives me an identity. Even if we are holders of a Canadian passport we will be first known as a national of India and its image, its progress , and its good and bad will get associated with our image. We will be treated accordingly in our work place...e.g. Indian getting opportunities in the Silicon Valley based upon their performance in their own country first.

I feel we Indians, living outside, should try our best to always keep the flag of India high and contribute our best to the society we live in. We all are, as individuals, carrying the responsibility of being an ambassador of our country, so we should represent ourselves in the best possible manner. We should not think of India only as a shopping centre (because of the low cost) but also a place where the philosophy of love, compassion, understanding and mysticism originated. The world looks towards it for higher meaning and higher salvation. Wherever I may be, I will never forget that I am an Indian first. Jai Hind.

HINDI - A BONE OF CONTENTION

Recently Hindi became a bone of contention in India. Lots of news channels were debating about the legitimacy of Hindi as a national language. I have some opinions on this topic so I thought of sharing them with all of you.

Being an Indian myself and living outside India for almost 17 yrs., these matters still concern me. I love Hindi and speak Hindi all the time whenever I get a chance. I have taught the language to my children as well. The sad thing is that Hindi is not widely accepted in India, and since we as Indians are divided on so many issues, we don't mind doing regional and communal politics even if they are sensitive issues of national interest. Recently, I was watching a debate conducted by NDTV and CNN-IBN and was appalled to see the amount of resistance Hindi is facing from within India. Though majority of the Indian population speaks Hindi, it is still not an accepted language and most of them from other states were saying it is a dysfunctional language. How any other regional language can be functional, I cannot understand. They are willing to accept English as their national language and not Hindi, because it will be a defeat on their part. Though only 8% of population in India can speak English, the English channels were trying to project that 48% of the janta in India are in favour of English.

First of all, on this kind of a forum, we need a good Hindi speaker, who can look educated, elegant, and sophisticated enough to be heard by so called-anchors of the shows and other invited guests. They never invite a highly sophisticated, elegant and stylish person who can represent the majority interest of the people of India.

The second issue is about convent schools. For this I think, we, our mind-set, competition outside, and lack of govt's will to improve the quality of Hindi schools, were responsible for its failure. 4-5 years ago, when I was in India, I met my mom's maid servant who was a young girl of 14-15 and she sounded very intelligent. So I asked her to enrol herself in the Govt. Girl's High school. She refused. She said, if she ever goes to school, she would like to go to an English school. She doesn't want to go to a school where the teachers give work to children and then get busy into knitting and other kind of activities. I was shocked to listen to this impression from a village girl, who refused to be educated at all if she had to go to a Hindi school. Hindi schools have poor etiquettes and almost zero presentation. Teachers are not up to the mark. If we want people to send their children to our own schools, we will have to improve a lot of things in order to make it functional. Govt. representatives keep on visiting Europe and North America, but they never try to learn and implement things that are good about the west. For them, coming to the west means eating, drinking and being merry. When it’s time to go back home, then they do petty politics.

Today, at least Raj Thackeray (Maharashtra) and M.K. Kanimozhi (Tamilnadu), who are involved in language politics are able to sustain themselves, although they and their children didn't go to regional schools, because they think English is an international language and so they need to know it in order to progress. Where is a Hindi ka pratinidhi ( a strong one)...when Samajwadi party tries to fight it out...it sounds more like politics than a real concern. When BJP says something, they make it look like saffron politics or desi politics or fundamental politics. We need a strong Hindi voice that belongs to someone who knows how to play the game with all sophistication and elegance.

A misunderstood speech

While reading Vivekananda I came across these statements of his, (1888-1902)

"Non-Injury is right. 'Resist not evil' is a great thing – these are indeed grand principles; but the scriptures say,' Thou art a house-holder; if anyone smites thee on thy cheek, and thou dost not return him an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth, thou will verily be a sinner.' Manu says, 'When one has come to kill you, there is no sin in killing him, even though he be a Brahmin.' (Manu, Viii. 350) This is very true, and this is a thing which should not be forgotten. Heroes only enjoy the world. Show your heroism; apply, according to circumstances, the fourfold political maxims of conciliation, bribery, sowing, dissensions and open war, to win over your adversary and enjoy the world – then you will be Dharmika (righteous). Otherwise, you live a disgraceful life if you pocket your insults when you are kicked and trodden down by anyone who takes it into his head to do so; your life is a veritable hell here, and so is the life hereafter. This is what the shastras say. Do your Svadharma – this is truth, the truth of truths. This is my advice to you, my beloved co-religionists. Of course, do not do any wrong. Do not injure or tyrannize over anyone, but try to do good to others as much as you can. But passively to submit to wrong done by others is a sin – with the householder. He must try to pay them back in their own coin then and there."

At another place he is saying to his devotees,

“Bless others when they revile you. Think how much good they are doing you; they can only hurt themselves. Go where people hate you, let them thrash the ego out of you, and you will get nearer to God.”

I find these two statements very contradictory. At one place he is advocating “an eye for an eye” and at the other he is advising to visit those who can insult or humiliate us with good grace, so that we can be able to tame our ego and thus learn the art of surrendering completely to the Lord.
I have seen few people reacting or humiliating others for trivial things and then justifying it by citing Vivekananda’s householder definition. To understand the background of this statement, I would like to go back into Swami Vivekananda’s other lectures which he gave regarding Bauddhistic practices. He found Buddhism quite unpractical because the path of Moksha, (sannyasa) cannot be for all. This desire of many, made society dysfunctional and India got invaded by other kings and countries and lost to them on the name of Moksha and non-violence. In regards to the context and timing of Swami Vivekananda’s delivered speech, the message of action versus passivity was greatly needed. During the time of British rule in India along with Bauddhistic practices, citizens of India were taking the backseat to their own nation’s affairs, in the attempt to follow Buddhism. Although non-violence is definitely feasible on paper, it is not always practical. Keeping that in mind Swami Vivekananda gave that lecture to householders to convey the message that one should do their duty as per their dharma and position. If it comes to fight, then one should fight if the end cause is important and worthwhile.

As far as the second statement is concerned, it is very difficult to take the insult and understand the cause of it. Not only the cause of it, but to have an understanding of why the person has insulted you. But, if one gains understanding of the others' perspective, then that person goes far in life. Although the two statements are contradictory, they cannot be judged solely on their content, but also must have their time period and context taken into consideration.

Think about it and do send me your comments and interpretation of these statements.

QUEST FOR A GURU

A time comes in our lives, when we think of having a Guru so that our journey on  spiritual path become a little easy with the guidance and blessings of the guru.  I am anxious to find a Guru, a real guru who can hold my hand, guide me and take me on the path of the highest truth.  However, I also know that it is not that simple. In this age of media and technology we keep on listening to many stories, where so called gurus are robbing people of their money and trust. It has become a very lucrative business because in this field, we don’t ask too many questions about the credibility of the gurus. We are fearful, ignorant and have the belief that on the name of dharma no one will cheat us. We are getting into the trap of fancy inspiring speeches, knowledge or their claim of being an “avatar”. Religious terrorism is very much in practice and thus, these so-called spiritual gurus are so financially strong that no one can do any harm to them.

Therefore, the question is how to find a guru? These days even diksha or initiation is being given more so for bringing lots of people under one particular (on the name of gurus or ashrams) umbrella.  What it actually  means, and whether one is ready for it or not, does not seem to hold importance. While surfing the net, I came across this ad, “In the Internet you can find millions of mantras. But which one is right for you? Now you can ask Swami XYZ for a personal mantra for your issues of love and relationships, finance, health, or your spiritual way. By working with your personal mantra you can bring your consciousness to another level. Swami Ji will connect with your energy and find the mantra which is beneficial, particularly for you!”

Knowing the seriousness of this business, even the seeker needs to do little homework before finding the real guru. One should not succumb to the pressure or to the false aura created by a few devotees, unless the person himself feels the need and connectivity with the guru. Our scriptures are full of stories and characteristics to identify a real guru. I am trying to explore a few here. In Gita, Lord Krishna says to Arjuna,

“Acquire the transcendental knowledge from a Self-realized master by humble reverence, by sin­cere inquiry, and by service. The empowered ones, who have realized the Truth, will teach you.” (4.34)

But the question is how to know who possesses the real quality of a guru? Lord Krishna has described these qualities in chapter 4, verse 18-23 very nicely. Also in” Vivekchudamani” Adi Shankaracharya has described the qualities of a sadguru as follows:

33. Who is versed in the Vedas, sinless, unsmitten by desire and a knower of Brahman par excellence, who has withdrawn himself into Brahman; who is calm, like fire that has consumed its fuel, who is a boundless reservoir of mercy that knows no reason, and a friend of all good people who prostrate themselves before him.

37. These are good souls, calm and magnanimous, who do well to others as does the spring, and who, having themselves crossed this dreadful ocean of birth and death, help others also to cross the same, without any motive whatsoever.

The duty of a guru is to bring a disciple close to god and to help one establish a relationship with God. A genuine spiritual teacher always considers themselves a servant of the Supreme lord.  Let’s see what Sri Ramkrishna Paramhansa had to say about a real guru. He says,  “Satchidananda alone is the Guru. If a man in the form of a guru awakens spiritual consciousness in you, then know for certain that it is God the Absolute who has assumed that human form for your sake. The guru is like a companion who leads you by the hand. After the realization of God, one loses the distinction between the guru and the disciple. The relationship between them remains as long as the disciple does not see God."

So a genuine spiritual master is a true necessity and an extremely rare blessing. Upon finding such a teacher, one must approach him or her and inquire about the truth of life. At the same time, to a genuinely sincere student seeking a Guru, the Supreme Being inspires him from within the heart.. Spiritual life is not a retreat; it is an inner journey, a journey of self discovery.

If we are seekers, we have to be wise and intelligent in our search of a guru. We have to combine our sensibility with worldly wisdom if we ever want to truly succeed. We should know how to discriminate because we want spiritual salvation and no one else can do it for us as we have to save ourselves. So we should start relying on our own wisdom.

A true master will have elevated conduct. The mind will be pure, desires will be less. Always remember, we have to achieve our goal by our own effort. We have to cultivate ourselves. No one can do it for us. There is no instant mantra for spiritual salvation. It is not a cocktail whipped together by a whimsical combination of asanas and breathing exercises. It is easy to say that ‘I am not the Body’, but to understand and apply it in daily life is a different experience all together. It implies a change in consciousness, a transformation in the way one views the world around them. This requires a spiritual teacher or a Bonafide Guru but we should have the wisdom of knowing who the real guru is.

.

FOUR EXERCISES TO BE GODWARD

Recently, I attended a lecture given by Swami Tyagananda , head of the Vedanta Society in Boston and thought of sharing it with my family and friends. I found the lecture not only meaningful but also practical. We all at one point of time in our lives want to turn towards spiritualism. The reason of turning towards it varies from people to people – But it is for sure that when we don’t get an answer for our miseries, sufferings or disappointments in this worldly life, we turn towards God.  Sometimes even after reading books after books, attending different lectures and temples, it becomes difficult for people to implement those doctrines in practical life in order to realize God. To reach the stage of Samadhi is not that easy – at least not possible in one birth.  As said by Sankaracharya in one of his slokas in “Vivekchudamani” For all beings a human birth is difficult to obtain; rarer still is the attachment to the path of Vedic religion; higher than this is erudition in the scriptures; discrimination between the Self and not- Self, Realisation, and continuing in a state of identity with Brahman – these come next in order. (This kind of) Mukti (Liberation) is not to be attained except through the well-earned merits of a hundred crore of births.”

 

So what we should do to practice spiritualism?  This lecture was basically trying to explore those methods or exercises through which we can think of elevating ourselves in order to reach nearer to the highest reality.

 

1.   Forget all the good that you have done to people - This is true that we always remember the good that we have done to others. It gives us the satisfaction of knowing how good and generous we are. If we don’t forget, then it will hurt us if that generosity is not returned with the same warmth. For example, on our friend’s birthday we buy a nice gift along with a cake and go to his/her house to greet and celebrate his/her birthday. Now by the time our birthday comes, we start expecting the same thing. It is possible that our friend will not show up. Forget about showing up, he or she might not even call us and that will make us miserable, thinking we did so much for him/her but he/she did not even bother to call us and thus our birthday will be ruined. So by doing one good and not forgetting it, we have created bondage for ourselves. So if we want to help or do anything for people, do not expect. As Swami Vivekananda rightly said,” When you give something to a man, expect nothing--do not even expect the man to be grateful--his ingratitude will not tell upon you, because you never expected anything, never thought you had any right to anything in the way of a return. You gave him what he deserved; his own Karma got it for him; your Karma made you the carrier thereof. Why should you be proud of having given away something? You are the porter that carried the money or other kind of gift, and the world deserved it by its own Karma. Where is then the reason for pride in you? There is nothing very great in what you give to the world.”

We are just a carrier, whose job is to deliver. So, why to bother what good we have done to others?  It is their turn to remember if it has to be remembered. Our goodness is over once we performed that particular duty. We should have the satisfaction of doing good which only will make us go Godward.

2.   Forget all the bad others have done to you – I know this is not as easy as it sounds, as our ego is not ready to accept it.  We think if we will not retaliate in the same manner, people will take us for granted. It takes time to tame our EGO, to make it understand not to retaliate but to reason it out. Why did it happen in the first place? Were my actions responsible for this kind of reaction? Sometimes even this kind of experience leads us towards spiritualism.  So we should be thankful to those ‘bad’ people who have made us wiser. Also, we all know that no two people are alike. Our situations, circumstances, nature and appearances are all so different and so are people’s reactions. Life is too short for trivial things. We should try to appreciate the goodness and the beauty of people around us. Swami Vivekananda has rightly said, “Life is good or evil according to the state of mind in which we look at it, it is neither by itself. Fire, by itself, is neither good nor evil. When it keeps us warm we say, "How beautiful is fire!" When it burns our fingers, we blame it. Still, in itself it is neither good nor bad. So as we use it, it produces in us the feeling of good or bad; so also does this world.”

 Similarly, all human beings are bonded to their prakirti (nature). We have to understand it, love it, appreciate it and if we don’t like it – keep a distance with it. Life is too short to have the grudges – people around us are the ones who are helping us, loving us, guiding us, so it is best to keep no bad feelings for them even if they have done any harm to us. Accept it as part of their nature, try to reason it out and appreciate them for giving us a different perspective to look at things. If we not do so, we will regret, once they will be gone. Think about the karma theory. Anything that is done to us, it is because of our own karma. They are just a carrier – like a postman – delivering only what we have asked for. Stop blaming others for your situation. Do not play a victim.

 

3.   Remember, everything is changeable or passes away - We all know that we are constantly changing. The whole world is changing. Our relationship changes – with our spouse, children, family, friends. We grow from baby to a teen and then to adult and finally old. If we don’t remain the same how do we expect other things revolving around us to remain the same.  Weather changes, season changes – the same way people’s emotion changes. We should learn to accept the changes, otherwise we will be miserable. Our situation keeps on changing. Nothing remains the same. One should not get too excited or sad at the outcome of the results of our actions because nothing is going to stay forever. There is this story, which I would like to share,

There was a king. A time came in his kingdom when lot of bad things were happening –- the king didn't know what to do. He was sad & worried. His ministers were concerned seeing the king sad. So they went to a goldsmith & got a ring engraved with "THIS TOO WILL PASS" and gave the ring to the king. Time turned and good time came. But the king did not forget to look at the engraved ring saying, "THIS TOO WILL PASS." So why to get overjoyed or excited?

Seeing the fragility of this life, we should not get too much attached to things because we know it is not going to be the same all the time. Life is a constant change. If we accept these changes, we can handle it more diligently. If we reject it, it becomes difficult.

 

4. Remember One Being that never changes is God – We all know that. So try to hold on to it. You will feel safe. Our faith in God intensifies when we know He is there to take care of our needs. Perhaps, we can accept that God’s ways are far better than our own. Choosing to release control to the only One who is the ultimate Truth gives us peace and security. Because God is the only one who can guide us, direct us and lead us to the path of salvation.

When we do puja and japam, we have to see how much it has entered into our being. When problems come in life, how do we deal with it? Do we behave like a spiritual person or a worldly person? If we are showing too much anxiety and stress – that means we don’t have faith in God. At the time of difficulty one should think – I am like a little baby in the lap of God mother? A sleeping child will not have a single sign of worry on his face because he knows his mother will take care of him. We should also be like a child when it comes to have faith in God.

 

God knows how to hide us and protect us, even in the very midst of any problem that could ever come against us. God knows how to take us in His arms and cradle us with love. He knows how to swoop down with His mighty arm and pluck us out from the midst of our enemies. God is a provider and always will be. He will provide for us if we will simply allow Him to do so. Reach out and grab a hold of Him for He is always there for us. He simply wants our trust. God will never let us down, nor will He forsake us. The world will let us down and walk away from us in the midst of our trials and tribulations. The world will run the other way when our enemies stand fast against us, but God will move forward with a band of angels stretching forth His mighty arm and pulling us to safety if we will just call on Him.

Practise these four exercises, and see what you get at the end. – peace, peace and peace.

Misconception of Truth

I came across these two lines of Rabindranath Tagore recently, when a friend of ours was reciting it. I felt the need of digging deep into these two lines, which seem simple but have a deep meaning underneath them. These two lines are, “Uttom nischinte chole odhomer sathe, tiniee modhyam jini cholen tofate.”

{(Uttam) it is difficult to translate uttam in English, but one can say an extremely good person can associate easily with sinful people while the ordinary (modhyam) people try to stay away from them.”}
I may not be an authority to analyze this deep rooted meaningful two line poem of Tagore but I am trying to put a sincere effort of mine with all humbleness and humility with whatever little knowledge that I have to understand it and would like my ‘prabuddha’ intellectual friends to make me understand the real meaning of it, if I am wrong.

It will be a misconception to think that ‘uttam’ means smart and intelligent enough to understand the situation or people and then handle them accordingly without causing any disadvantage to oneself.  This may be a ‘management skill’ of a person but certainly not the characteristics of being Uttam. When Rabindranath Tagore says Uttam, he certainly meant, “a person who has compassion, empathy for others, understanding, honest, warm-hearted, kind, generous, open-minded, humble, patient, courageous, non-judgemental, has a good temper, high-mindedness, sincere, modest, witty, and spiritual and who does no intentional harm to others.” The list can go on.

But the best definition is given in Gita chapter 12, verse 13-19 where Lord Krishna says, 

“Adveshtaa Sarva Bhoothaa-naam Maitrah Karuna Yeva Cha
Nirmamo Nirahan-kaaraha Sama Duhkha Sukhah Kshami

Santushtah Sathatham Yogi Yathaa-thmaa Dhrida Nischayaha
Mayyar-pitah Mano Buddhir Yo Madbhaktah Sa Me Priyaha (13-14)”

He who hates no being, who is friendly and compassionate to all, who is free from the feeling of I and mine, even-minded in pain and pleasure and forbearing... Ever content, steady in meditation, self controlled and possessed of firm conviction, with mind and intellect fixed on me, such a devotee is dear to me (and is a ‘uttam purush’)

He who neither rejoices nor hates nor grieves nor desires, renouncing good and evil (treating both as the same), full of devotion, he who is the same to foe and friend and also in honour and dishonour, who is the same in cold and heat, in pleasure and pain, who is free from attachment... To whom blame and praise is equal, who is silent, content with anything, free of selfish attachment, steady-minded and full of devotion... He by whom the world is not afflicted and whom the world cannot afflict, he who is free from joy, anger, fear and anxiety - He who has no wants, who is pure and prompt, unconcerned, untroubled, and who is selfless in all his undertakings, he who is thus devoted to Me, is dear to Me..( and only he can be the uttam purush)

If you reach to that state, then definitely you can mingle with all kinds of people- good and bad because you are out of all bondages. You will develop a ‘sambhav’ for everybody. Because you have controlled your ‘indriyas’ and all the vices.

Gautam Buddha also has defined it pretty well in his eightfold path.

1. Right View 2. Right Intention  3. Right Speech  4. Right Action  5.Right Livelihood  6.Right Effort  7.Right Mindfulness and  8.Right Concentration  - these qualities make a person Uttam.

‘Modhyam’ or Ordinary People -

Ordinary people are the ones who are constantly evolving and while trying to do so they use discrimination as a tool to save themselves from all kinds of distractions which can be an obstacle in their progression. They try to keep themselves more and more in holy company or with people possessing the right mindset, so that they should not become a victim of their true nature, which is tamsik (anger, greed, lust, power & attachment ). Even Sri Ramakrishna had said, “When a tree is young it should be fenced all around; otherwise it may be destroyed by cattle.” One should always discriminate between right and wrong, real and unreal. By discriminating thus, one should shake off impermanent objects from their mind. If you are not prepared well, the chances are that you will get trapped more and more into worldly affairs and then never be able to come out of it The world is full of maya, danger, grieves and sorrows.  "First rub your hands with oil and then break open the jack-fruit; otherwise they will be smeared with its sticky milk. First secure the oil of divine love, and then set your hands to the duties of the world.- Sri Ramakrishna said.

One must practise discrimination. Our shastras advise us to use our buddhi and filter out all outside turbulences & disturbances and meet the right people that bring positive energy into our lives and help us progress and evolve.
According to Sri Ramakrishna, “This is true that God dwells in all beings. But you may be intimate only with good people; you must keep away from the evil-minded. God is even in the tiger; but you cannot embrace the tiger on that account.

"It is said in the scriptures that water is a form of God. But some water is fit to be used for worship, some water for washing the face, and some only for washing plates or dirty linen. This last sort cannot be used for drinking or for a holy purpose. In like manner, God undoubtedly dwells in the hearts of all — holy and unholy, righteous and unrighteous; but a man should not have dealings with the unholy, the wicked, the impure. He must not be intimate with them. With some of them he may exchange words, but with others he shouldn't go even that far. He should keep aloof from such people."

Why we as ordinary people should be away from wicked people? Because as said in the Gita,

sattvam rajas tama iti
gunah prakrti-sambhavah
nibadhnanti maha-baho

dehe dehinam avyayam
Material nature consists of three modes — goodness(sattva), passion(rajas) and ignorance(tamas). When the eternal living entity comes in contact with nature, O mighty-armed Arjuna, he becomes conditioned by these modes.

The gunas are responsible for the diversity of nature and because of these gunas, human beings lose their ability to know themselves correctly and recognize their true divine nature. The gunas whether it is sattva or rajas or tamas, are part of prakriti and are responsible for our illusion and all sufferings on earth.

That is why it becomes important for us as ordinary human beings to create a fence around us to protect in order to understand our true nature and work on it.              

Anyway, we all want to be good, to be uttam. We all have two hearts: one that loves to do the right thing, and one that prefers to be selfish. We need to develop an awareness of the struggle going on inside us. The human quest "to be good" drives virtually everything we do. In order to maximize pleasure in life, we must distinguish between "material good" and "spiritual good."                  

We all want to claim that we are uttam but it is only at the end of our lives, when we can really judge whether or not we were a good person. It does not matter how we pretend or portray ourselves in front of others, what actually matters  is that deep down we all know whether or not we have lived as a, "good person".

   

Please throw light on these two lines of Rabindranath Tagore. Thank you

 

GAY RIGHTS IN INDIA

A few months ago I watched the news with awe as they were showing the landmark decision of the Delhi High Court, which changed India’s stand on gay rights. The Delhi high court scrapped parts of section 377, a colonial law that criminalised gay sex.

 

Of course that has sent a strong signal to Indian gay rights activists, who cheered the decision and the principle affirmation of homosexuals as part of Indian society. This is the first time that an Indian court has gone on record to say that sexual minorities are not second-class citizens, and that they cannot be discriminated against.

People who are supporting the rights for gay people say that the transgendered people have high rates of depression, suicide, substance abuse and relationship difficulties because of the lack of acceptance within the society & family. They live a suffocating closeted life and carry on to become victims of depression, alcoholism and drug abuse. For decades, the police and sometimes society at large used the law as an excuse to persecute gay men and women, who were harassed, blackmailed, detained or raped, unable to seek any protection or justice from the law.

Why are we not able to accept them? Is this really giving a bad name to India? We know that they are remarkably strong and creative individuals (choreographers, fashion designers, hotel professionals, etc.). By denying the existence of gay people, or even something like the looming existence of AIDS in India, we can’t stop its presence, or impending consequence. Just by closing our eyes, can we deny the fact that such things exist? Even when Raja Ram Mohan Roy first started his movement against “Sati pratha” he faced the same division in the society. But did it make him stop?

Religious leaders and majority of Indians are against it. Religious groups in India have warned they will oppose any move to legalize homosexuality.  For them, no matter what, homosexuality is “unnatural” and by supporting these kinds of activities, we will only be encouraging and promoting such tendencies. Getting such ambience and influence, even "normal" human beings can fall for gay tendencies.

Reverend Dominic Emmanuel, spokesperson of the Delhi Catholic Archdiocese, said the Catholic church has nothing against gays per se, he stressed, ‘‘We strongly believe that sex between same sex partners is immoral, unnatural and unethical.

In fact, Mumbai’s Catholic Secular Forum (CSF) circulated mass SMSs appealing to Catholics to protest against the move to legalize homosexuality. "We protest on both, health and religious grounds. We have statistics to prove that a large number of HIV cases are gay, and this verdict may lead to an AIDS epidemic of sorts,’’ Dias added.

Muslim clerics in both Mumbai and Delhi expressed shock. ‘‘India is secular, but most Indians are religious and no religion allows this. If homosexuality is legalised, it will damage our cultural and moral values."

Hindu and Sikh religious leaders share the same sentiments. Swami Ramdev expressed his views by saying, “If our parents had been gays, would we have been born? Freedom doesn’t mean licence. Our family system is the only ideal we can show to the world. Sadly, this judgment will end up corrupting it. I will be part of every protest against the judgment.’’

Do you think we are making unnecessary noise against this issue? Do people really convert themselves into homosexuals getting an opportunity or ambience? Is it really going to harm India’s image in the world? Should we accept gays as part of our society as they too are human as we are? Or do you think they are really evil and need to be sent for counselling? Don’t you think by accepting them, we will make the families of those more comfortable in accepting their gay children? Don’t you think we are victims of our pre-conceived values? Our minds are conditioned and any new invention, knowledge or awareness initially compel us to reject it. 

How many of us really try to educate ourselves so that we can be more accepting to things which are not like us?  It is difficult to know what is wrong or right. Thus, I would like to gain your views, ideas, and perspectives on this issue.